I have an identity crisis. Sometimes I think of myself as a writer. Sometimes I think of myself as a student of philosophy. Sometimes I think of myself as a geek, a gamer, or a comic buff. Sometimes I think of myself as a funny guy. Sometimes I think of myself as a friendly guy — willing to help a neighbor in need.
My identity crisis isn’t merely that I believe that I posses all of these qualities. The crisis is that I sometimes try to find my identity in them.
I appreciate how the apostle Paul encapsulated this concept in his letter to the Philippians. “Whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him.” Philippians 3:7-9
It’s a good passage. Go read it. Then think about how you try to fill the holes in your life with stuff that has less worth than you actually ascribe to it. My career is never going to satisfy me in the ways that I want to be satisfied. My relationships are never going to satisfy me in the ways I want to be satisfied. Even so try to make them the center points of my life. Compared to Christ, they’re rubbish.
To paraphrase Fight Club, you are not your job. You are not your bank account. You are not your accomplishments. You are not good deeds. You are not your father’s son.
You are your Father’s son.
You are made in the image of the Creator. And you have been justified before God by the sacrifice of his son, Jesus Christ. Don’t try to latch onto any other identity; you’re not going to get any better than that.
– Ben Reeves